You have got a lot to be proud of, but you fight for control, but ironically lapse further away from it…
“Life is a condition alternating between excitation, destruction and unbalance, and reorganization, equilibrium and rest.” -Kurt Goldstein
We all do it. We lie to ourselves every day, convincing ourselves we are invincible. Deluding ourselves to believe that our resources are finite…but truth be told, “the body’s resources are finite, and the rate at which they are depleted is determined by your body’s demands.” – Rob Turner (Read more here @Functional Performance Systems http://www.functionalps.com/blog/2016/08/01/bodily-resources-vs-demands/ )
And whether we like it or not, the more we keep working against our body, the more it will fight against us to restore homeostasis (balance). The mind may even hit the ground faster and harder, before your body does. Either way, your body will give you feedback on how much it can handle from you and from your environment. Listen to it, instead of letting your ego get the better of you and deluding yourself that you are invincible. Though you may have found pride in finding so much strength in your ability to push through pain, there comes a point where it’s no longer pride, but about health. Everything you do should be conducive for good health. Good health equates to success and suffering is not a requirement for success. Allow yourself permission to rest and engage in more helpful forms of movement, where possible, like a walk in the sunlight or just simple play with pets or kids.
Pay also very careful attention to the people you hang around, for subconsciously, we will become a little like them. So pay very careful attention to the qualities of the people you spend the most time around. Don’t lie to yourself and convince yourself that you deserve to be treated in any way that disrespects you. Stay as far away from negativity as possible. Don’t hang out with people you don’t like out of loneliness or fear of social exclusion. Don’t lie to yourself and tell yourself you like hanging out with these people when they make you feel less. Don’t let them lie to you either and dictate to you how you should feel about the way they treat you. We have our intuition for a reason. Listen to it, your body will tell you to stay away from these people too. They will drain your energy just the same as any environmental toxin. Normally, we will stay strong until we do not have to, i.e. resilient in the face of destruction due to elevated stress hormones. But when we are away from a stressful situation, it is only then do we realize how much we have been suffering. We stay strong, until we don’t have to…stay away from negativity. People in your life should build you up, not down. If not, get away from them and build yourself up.
Lastly, always be the one to build yourself up. Be the foundation in which you find your own strength. Find the beacon of light within and use it to shine. Don’t lie to yourself and do things you don’t even want to do just to fit in. The irony is that in trying to fit in, we move further away from aligning ourselves to our own values and morals sometimes and that is what is most important. Don’t lie to yourself to the point where you move away from your own integrity. We try to find pride in groups, when we should be most proud of our ability to stay true to ourselves in a world constantly trying to change us. Unless it is for the better (physiologically), don’t ever change. Stay true to your own character. Believe in kindness, even when you don’t see it around it. Be the standard you want to see around you. Don’t let the negativity get you down. Instead be the positivity you want to see in this world.
On a final note, if you’re feeling lonely, sometimes, being around better books is better than not being around better people.
“What an astonishing thing a book is. It’s a flat object made from a tree with flexible parts on which are imprinted lots of funny dark squiggles. But one glance at it and you’re inside the mind of another person, maybe somebody dead for thousands of years. Across the millennia, an author is speaking clearly and silently inside your head, directly to you. Writing is perhaps the greatest of human inventions, binding together people who never knew each other, citizens of distant epochs. Books break the shackles of time. A book is proof that humans are capable of working magic.” – Carl Sagan
Books are powerful tools that are able to connect us with the minds of others. Most people don’t eat enough to power what should be between their ears or to understand that the brain is the most voracious guzzler of glucose. Faulty science is everywhere and with it comes a bounty of logical fallacies. This creates isolation for those who think with an open-mind, but not too open. Like Carl Sagan also said, “’it pays to keep an open mind, but not so open your brains fall out.” So read and read widely. It will connect you with like-minded people no matter where you are and give you what money can’t buy – knowledge from self-directed learning. Indulge in different lines of thinking if you must, but at the end of the day, ask question and formulate your own opinions. Never accept anything without questioning.
“When you start looking for ulterior motives, you might conclude that your physician is greedy, that your chemistry professor has a contract with the rubber company that makes ice cream, and that food producers are so pleased with their profits that they don’t care about the increasing numbers of deformed and mentally retarded babies, or the increasing rate of cancer and diabetes. If you do this, then you are probably involved in a demystification of the world. Eating good food can alter your consciousness; so can thinking about how we’re going to get it.” – Dr Ray Peat, PhD
“We can judge our progress by the courage of our questions and the depth of our answers, our willingness to embrace what is true rather than what feels good.” – Carl Sagan
You deserve happiness and some people don’t have that in mind. Human nature is often profit-driven. Society has deluded us into thinking we have to suffer in order to be successful, but no we don’t. If we do so, we deplete our body’s resources until we are back to where we are back to the beginning. Like I could push myself and work overtime, but then end up really sick and having to take time off work and so my end wage, would end up the same. The body will push to balance resources. Work with it and not against it. Ask yourself, why are you being so mean to yourself? There are enough people in this world being mean to us or someone close to us already for us to do that to ourselves.
Sometimes pride comes from biting the bullet and accepting that we are not invincible. We are human and are not designed to run like robots. (This includes running on certain formulas of exercise and/or fixed caloric amounts daily.) It may be painful to rest when the whole of society has this attitude of calling us all-sorts of names for not pushing against our own physiology, but bite the bullet. Listen to your body’s physiology far first then society’s pressures. In most cases, mainstream society isn’t going to be the one to help you pick up the pieces when your body is out of resources, but you will be. Doctor yourself now, before you run out of resources.
“Every stress leaves an indelible scar, and the organism pays for its survival after a stressful situation by becoming a little older.” – Hans Selye
You are human and like Zachariah Salazar said, “We are all at the mercy of our own resources.”
Control comes from listening to your body’s physiology and not working against it. Take every opportunity to pay attention to every cue your body is trying to give to you. In every stressful situation, there is an opportunity to find a way to take better care of yourself and not give in to society’s pressure and do questionable things that aren’t physiologically sound. Take the first approach, bite the bullet and take pride in the fact that you are taking better steps to better health now, before your body forces you to do it down the path.
A recovered me.